HEALTH UPDATE: I experienced my first ct scan that was not stable back in June. Multiple liver lesions. The only information I know about these lesions for sure is that they are not neuroendocrine in nature. Tests and scans are ongoing. If you guessed that I am mentally unstable due to this cloud, then you are correct. Other than that, my health overall remains mostly the same. Labs are wonky here and there. I have days of relentless fatigue but I am still here!
Ramblings:
I insist that I am not a “writer” yet I have had this feeling over the past several months and I can only describe it as “writers block”. I haven’t wanted to write. Share. Face things. There has been a feeling inside that just said to me, I don’t want to. I feel nothing. Or, I don’t know how to describe this time in my life. So I haven’t. I tried writing a few time, blurting out frustrations and fears…but for my eyes only. It didn’t have the same affect that my writing has in the past. I was left feeling uncured. Still with jumbled feelings inside. Not knowing what the hell was going on. My go to “therapy” isn’t working anymore. Until today. Here I am. The keyboard is on fire and I have so much to let go.
The summer has been amazing and total hell, all at the same time. Willow had her first day of third grade yesterday. When we got home from dropping her off at school, I felt a fatigue like no other. It was time to exhale. It was time to start recovery from the summer months. I will miss Willow at home. I also have missed my time to regenerate. It’s like a life cycle of perfection. Get exhausted, then regenerate. Over and over. Isn’t that why we sleep at night? This exhale is like sleeping but on a much larger scale. Energy regeneration on an epic scale, if you will.
This summer was filled with many celebrations. I enjoyed planning a few parties for some majorly favorite family members. We celebrated my beautiful Mom’s 80th birthday in July. The party was amazing in so many way. I loved to see all the love for my mom and also the teamwork from my siblings. All having the same goals to make mom feel special. It was the best feeling. Of course there was the logistical side of things. The venue, decorations, cake! The cake! I will freely admit I went absolutely bonkers with planning. It’s what I do. I have to admit, it was beautiful.
Willow’s birthday party was in August. What a time we had! A little backstory. I was calling around to the local bouncy places that are very easy to hold a celebration. Just write the check. They do the rest. That doesn’t work for us. I was alarmed at the cost and for food that wasn’t allergy safe. It got me thinking. I’d rather hand out money to people that I know! So we did! Willow had 9 girls come by and we gave them an allowance and headed to Target! Afterwards, we celebrated with tacos and chocolate chip cookie cake. A fun time was had by all!
The parties were a big part of my summer spent planning and such. We filled in the cracks of time with adventures to the pool for swimming lessons, Camp Heussner in August, playing with friends, parks, movies and a trip to the local amusement park in Marshall, WI. Little Amerika. Wow, what a place. Tom hasn’t been the same since going on the Scrambler ride with Willow. We do our best. The fun stuff was really fun!
When times got tough, my dad had a saying that wasn’t meant to be funny but it was. He’d call a rough deal a “shit sandwich”. Do you know where I’m going with this? Yep. Summer is all about picnics and my picnics had their share of shit sandwich servings.
I’m still on active treatment. I’m still on the same miracle concoction. The trial of immunotherapy that has saved my life. This trial also includes ct scans every 9 weeks. They have been a breeze for over 3 years. Stable, stable, stable. I felt confident going in for my scan in June. Why wouldn’t I? I’ve come to almost joke about “scanxiety”. I’m a miracle! Nothing bad can happen to me now!
I clicked on the results. Did you know I can read results without even reading all the words? I’ve been doing this for so long that I know there should be just a sentence or maybe two. I’m not trying to brag, but I know what I’m looking for! S#! f&*@ D!%*! The results in June was not what I was looking for, nor what I was expecting. I see the haze of words. Much larger than a sentence or two. I hold my breath and read. “Multiple liver lesions identified”…”These are suspicious for metastatic disease”.
I immediately proceeded to get physically ill.
More tests were needed. MRI to get a better look. These lesions are tricky to see. I’ve named them. Tumor monster had a name, these guys need one too. Little fuckers. Of course when you need an MRI for little fuckers, there isn’t an appointment available the next day or the next week. There is waiting involved. Pain staking waiting. I was lucky and it got moved up earlier than originally scheduled. Results. Yep. You’ve got some little fuckers in your liver. Let’s get to it and complete a biopsy. Finally! Drugs! Good drugs. I’m excited about this. The biopsy failed and there would be no relaxing, feel good drugs that day. The little fuckers are hiding. They are not easy to see with an ultrasound. The biopsy is scrapped.
What do we know? We know that the tumor monster (acinar cell carcinoma) has appeared to be dead or sleeping for a while now. We tested for tumor monster dna in my blood. Negative. What could these little fuckers be? Oh wait! Remember back in February 2020 when Dr. Evans described the possibility of a “collision tumor”? Two different types of cancer in one tumor? Yes! I’m remembering that now. We did a specialty scan, called a “dototate” scan that can pick up a rare type of tumor called a “neuroendocrine” tumor. It’s all coming back to me. Back in 2020, this scan did indeed show a glow in the tumor monster indicating that I did have a suspicion for both acinar cell carcinoma AND neuroendocrine tumor activity. My PET scan this spring (2023) did not glow at all indicating that perhaps the little fuckers in my liver are the neuroendocrine tumors reaching out from my pancreas to say hi and I’d like to visit other organs now?! Could it be?
Well shit. I’m trying to remember how I could have forgotten to address the second type of tumor I had. I honestly think we’ve been all in a haze over my survival that it was literally forgotten. I’m afraid to ask so I don’t. It isn’t something that shows up on a regular pet scan. Since the tumor monster has shrunk, the suspected neuroendocrine tumors are even measurable and have been for quite some time. There are two and have not changed in size. They are just there. To think they could have spread to my liver now is the biggest face palm moment of my life. What the HELL!? Thankfully, I do not need to answer that question. My first dotatate scan since the original one in 2020 was completed and my liver did not glow. This means the little fuckers are not neuroendocrine. The two original areas that glowed in 2020 are STILL glowing. I am assuming this means I still have two neuroendocrine tumors that the immunotherapy has not killed. I am still waiting for an answer on wtf is going on with these two tumors on my pancreas.
The weeks are flying by. There are no answers. There is no plan. I’m left with my thoughts. Inside, I’m losing my shit if I sit still long enough to think about this situation. Cancer. The gift that never stops giving. Pure torture best describes not knowing what is happening to your body. Again. This is reminding me of when it took so long to get diagnosed in the first place. PTSD is real.
Look at the calendar! It’s time for my regularly scheduled 9 week ct scan (August 22nd). Let’s wait and see what things look like. I’m cringing inside. Utterly terrified. The results are not bad. The radiologist describes the previously noted little fuckers now as “occult” on this scan. Huh? Not there? Can’t see? Ghostly? Well, they are not worse (if at all) so let’s do a MRI in September and compare again. If they are bigger we will do a ct guided biopsy. If they are the same maybe we will just “watch”. Huh? Ok. One step at a time. My MRI is scheduled for October 5th.
But hey, what about those two suspected neuroendocrine tumors that are still glowing on my pancreas? What are we going to do about those? Why haven’t we talked about these blasts from the past until now? Did we really forget about them in the midst of my miraculous survival? Personally, I’d like to get them the F out of my body. I’m still waiting for answers. I’ve been busy. It makes it easier for me to push this out of my mind. I know I should be doing more to get answers but I’m so tired. As the weeks continue to fly by, I am scheduled again for treatment next week already. I’ll hope again for answers.
I’m no stranger to my inner chatter. It has ramped up again. Not since my original diagnosis and pending death (or so I thought) have I had such hard conversations with myself. It’s been hard not to tell myself, “I told you not to get excited about surviving!!”! I know things are so different now. I’m stronger. It has taken me so long to start to move on with my life. Gingerly accepting the beautiful fact that I’m still here and not all statistics are accurate. It’s been hard to accept this and being afraid of it all being taken away has been too much of a burden to even comprehend. I was getting to the point where I was starting to believe I could beat this for the long haul, but this summer has tested me greatly.
So for now, I will exhale. I will pray for strength. I will pray for answers. I will accept the fact that cancer is not a sprint. There will be times when I take a step back, whether mentally or physically, instead of forward. I’m still here and I’m going to KEEP GOING!
F Cancer!